I Can’t Do This Anymore…

FlagWavingFOR the last fifteen years or more, I have considered myself to be a conservative Republican. I have always been interested in politics for as long as I can remember. Back in first grade in 1992, I wore a button supporting George H.W. Bush for re-election. I remember my teacher asking me why I wouldn’t want someone else to be President. My response was: ‘Why would I? George Bush is pretty good.’ Look, I was six years old and I didn’t fully understand politics. But, what I did know then was that I agreed with more of what I saw about Republicans than Democrats. I found myself again being a young supporter of Bob Dole in 1996. Then in high school, I supported George W. Bush for election in 2000. The more I learned about economic issues, the subsequent concerns for national security in a post-9/11 world, and based on my feelings at the time on social issues, I felt more aligned with the Republican Party and wore that label proudly.

When I went to college in 2004, I joined the College Republicans on campus. I met some very great friends, a few of whom I keep in touch with today (not as regularly as I’d hope). But being away from home for the first time, I started to learn more about myself. I found myself diverging with the “party line” on social issues. Namely, the vitriol on same-sex marriage and abortion. I was more focused on economic and security policy and spending than I was concerned with social issues. I was also wrangling with personal identity and understanding who and how I love. But increasingly the GOP became mired in the minutia of society and the Christian right became an increasingly vocal influence on the party. I found myself torn. I supported some of what the party was saying, but became increasingly concerned with the tone and language. Don’t misunderstand me though, as a college student who was seeking a place in the group – I found myself repeating and towing the party line in public. In 2005, I even voted against my own self interest and supported the ban on same-sex marriage in the State of Texas. I stood in that voting booth for a long time thinking on my decision. I was voting against my personal life, but wanted to keep up with my political life. So I voted for the ban. I’ve regretted that decision ever since. It is the only vote that I truly regret, and am deeply sorry for. My one vote wouldn’t have made a remarkable difference in the state, but I regret it nonetheless. Thankfully, there were those stronger than me who fought to overturn the ban in the courts.

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VIDEO: “Pulse”

In the wake of the tragic events at Pulse nightclub in Orlando, singer-songwriters Eli Lieb and Brandon Skeie penned a song dedicated to the victims. The song is appropriately called: “Pulse,” and it perfectly fits.

To donate to the families affected by the Pulse Nightclub shooting, click HERE.

Download the song by clicking the link in the video description on YouTube.

 

 

Reflecting on Orlando Shooting

This has honestly been a very difficult post to write, it has in all seriousness taken me days to figure out what I wanted to say. All because, nothing really seems quite adequate. Few events have ever hit as close to home as this one. Sunday, the nation and the world woke to the devastating and heartbreaking news of the deadliest mass shooting in modern American history. The attack took place at PULSE, a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida. PULSE was a gay nightclub in an ordinary American city and it was a regular Saturday night. That is until a coward entered the club and unleashed three hours of terror on the patrons turned victims of this senseless act of violence. 49 people lost their lives on this tragic night. 49 loved ones. 49 brothers and sisters. 49 boyfriends, girlfriends, partners, spouses. 49 individuals.

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It is extremely difficult to put into words what a tragedy like this means to me. I ran the gamut of emotions on Sunday. From shock, to sadness, grieving to anger. I saw interviews with the mothers and relatives of the victims, desperately searching for answers and hope. Praying that somehow, the person they loved was safe. Many didn’t find that, and my heart inevitably broke each and every time, for each and every one of them. I thought of my own mother, my own family, how this would affect them if it were for some reason me. I thought how I would feel if my own partner was in a similar situation. I connected so much with people I never knew, and I had never met. Yet somehow, I loved them and prayed for them and their families.

The sorrow turned to anguish and anger at the situation. The entire range of emotions continued for days as more information, and more stories came out of the harrowing ordeal. I thought of how senseless this act was and is. The story that touched me the most was of Brenda McCool who was at the club with her son. She shielded him with her body, and saved his life while sacrificing hers. It was absolutely, devastatingly heartbreaking for me. I couldn’t imagine what her son must be going through. But I was inspired by her act of love to save his life. But then so upset that she was put in that situation.

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This isn’t even a full recap of what I have wanted to say. The debate on gun control will rage on soon. But that is for another day. I wanted to at least get something down, because I haven’t really been able to talk about it much. I want to remember the victims of this tragedy. I want this event to mean something for this country. Far too long, people and politicians have framed the debate about LGBT people as being about pedophiles and molesters in restrooms and around children. Hopefully, as horrible as this is – this will make people see and understand that LGBT people are just that… PEOPLE. Their families are no different than any other. The amount of support has been amazing to see. I hope it lasts. Hopefully, everyone finally learns that Love is love. Love conquers hate.

More tomorrow…hopefully…on Everyday BRAND.

 

 

The Story of Trey Pearson

13245258_10154312380332280_7932795666232217747_nTrey Pearson is a popular Christian music artist. He has toured the country and shared his message with countless people. He’s shared a lot with people, except one thing. Trey Pearson is gay. Like many who struggle with publicly identifying themselves this way, Trey hid this part of himself for a long time. Trey hid this from his fans, his conservative family, and even his wife. He hid it until he simply couldn’t hide it any longer.

Trey penned a moving letter to his fans and eventually the public at large about embracing his identity, and about the struggles he has faced. He is taking an unknown risk by being open and honest about his life. Pearson is the lead singer of popular Christian band, Everyday Sunday. The band has released several popular albums that have found success not only on the Christian charts, but even on the Billboard Hot 200. Pearson isn’t the first faith based artist to come out about themselves. The others have found their music essentially blacked out of Christian radio. But even with all of that, the thought of opening up to his beautiful wife on this, and the rest of his family – Trey Pearson decided the time was right to accept himself for who he is, and be open and honest about it. I applaud him for it and welcome him to this expansive community. For those naysayers, the LGBT community does include individuals who are all across the spectrum of spirituality and religion from zero to devout.

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