Fifteen Years Can Seem Like Fifteen Seconds

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IT seems like it was yesterday. I remember where I was when I first heard of what was then reported as a small plane crash into the North Tower of the World Trade Center in New York. It was early morning on September 11, 2011 and my mom was driving me to school on her way to work, just like every morning. I remember the exact spot on the freeway, at the exit, where I was puzzled by the news. I was fifteen years old – a sophomore in high school – and I had a Spanish test that day, and rather than spend my morning reading up on news, I chose to get some last minute studying in at the library before class.


Some of my classmates walked in upset, and fearful of a coming war. Not having seen or heard anything other than the brief news flash on the radio that morning, I was unaware of the terror that had been unfolding in New York and Washington D.C.. They would relay the story, but I was completely oblivious. This was a time before smartphones in every hand and the world at your fingertips at a moments notice. An iPhone was just a thought in someone else’s mind at that point. Our school had televisions in most of its classrooms, but for some reason we had a substitute teacher that morning in Spanish class. She was intent on administering that test that morning. The classroom next door was obviously watching the coverage. In the silence of that classroom, I could hear their reactions to the frightful scene playing out on the world’s broadcast airwaves. I learned more of the story from my friends in the hallway between classes and I couldn’t believe what they were telling me. In my second block that day, my English teacher had us focus on reading. But how did he honestly expect us to focus? That block of class I don’t remember much.

Row American Flags Half Mast Washington DC USAAt lunch, our hallways would normally be filled with a music selection from our campus radio station. That day, there was confirmation of the seriousness of what had been going on. Instead of the student DJs playing a selection of music, there was a simulcast of CBS News. Though I couldn’t see the images, the audio was enough to drive the message home. I still wouldn’t be able to see the images of the day in third or fourth periods that day. Third period our teacher refused to have it on and focus on the science lab at hand. I didn’t understand why. In fourth block, our teacher let us have personal time to work on classwork while he had the radio tuned in to the news. He seemed to be disheartened as would be appropriate. It wasn’t until I was home later that evening that I finally saw how terrible and dark a day that our nation had been through. I had bought a newspaper at the convenience store on the way home and it was the first images I had seen. I was, like many, flooded with a rush of emotions. I was scared, angry, sad, and whole host of other emotions all at the same time.

I was far removed from New York, in a small town along the Texas-Mexico border. I had never been to the city, or to Washington D.C. at that point in my life. As a politically leaning young person at the time, I had always wanted to visit the nation’s capital. New York was on the list too for the buildings, I was very much a fan of architecture and structure at the time. I had never seen such a grand structure reduced to rubble like what happened in New York that day though. In the days that followed the attacks, I joined in and felt some comfort in the overwhelming patriotism and unity of America. Seeing the renewed sense of pride in the nation was great. There was undoubted grief playing out on television, and I felt that as well. Then the run up to the War on Terror that would come brought some hesitation. I remembered some of the Gulf War as a first grader, but didn’t have much recent memory of my country going to war.

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September 11, 2001 was a date that changed many people. Our way of life came under attack that day. Families had a loved one stolen from them in the most senseless way by a group of cowardly actors of a fanatical group. It is a date that changed my generation forever. Nothing has been the same. Enhanced security measures at airports, sporting events, etc. Everything is different. In the years that have passed, the flags some put up have faded and weren’t replaced. The fervent patriotism has waned. The unity we felt and expressed on September 12th has seemingly diminished. We are divided, discordant, and dissonant perhaps more so than we were before that day the world stopped turning on a September day.


A lot has changed in the past fifteen years. The nation has fought in wars. Some of our best and brightest continued to pay the ultimate sacrifice in defense of the nation. We’ve changed leadership. I personally have gone to college, changed careers, made new friends, lost old ones, forgotten others. For others though, every September takes them back to a day when the crisp autumn like air was darkened by a senseless act of violence. On that day we lost nearly 3,000 of our fellow countrymen and women. Fifteen years seems like it has passed in a matter of seconds – time flies. Today, we have seen moments of silence, ceremonies of remembrance, and a nation that continues to heal. We have gotten back to our new normal, but in the honor of those we’ve lost we continue to go on. Following that dark day in our nation’s history, the best of our country shown through. That continues to this day.
The attacks that day shook the foundations of our biggest buildings. But they did not touch the foundation of America. Our resolve was, and still is, strong.
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WE WILL NEVER FORGET

I Can’t Do This Anymore…

FlagWavingFOR the last fifteen years or more, I have considered myself to be a conservative Republican. I have always been interested in politics for as long as I can remember. Back in first grade in 1992, I wore a button supporting George H.W. Bush for re-election. I remember my teacher asking me why I wouldn’t want someone else to be President. My response was: ‘Why would I? George Bush is pretty good.’ Look, I was six years old and I didn’t fully understand politics. But, what I did know then was that I agreed with more of what I saw about Republicans than Democrats. I found myself again being a young supporter of Bob Dole in 1996. Then in high school, I supported George W. Bush for election in 2000. The more I learned about economic issues, the subsequent concerns for national security in a post-9/11 world, and based on my feelings at the time on social issues, I felt more aligned with the Republican Party and wore that label proudly.

When I went to college in 2004, I joined the College Republicans on campus. I met some very great friends, a few of whom I keep in touch with today (not as regularly as I’d hope). But being away from home for the first time, I started to learn more about myself. I found myself diverging with the “party line” on social issues. Namely, the vitriol on same-sex marriage and abortion. I was more focused on economic and security policy and spending than I was concerned with social issues. I was also wrangling with personal identity and understanding who and how I love. But increasingly the GOP became mired in the minutia of society and the Christian right became an increasingly vocal influence on the party. I found myself torn. I supported some of what the party was saying, but became increasingly concerned with the tone and language. Don’t misunderstand me though, as a college student who was seeking a place in the group – I found myself repeating and towing the party line in public. In 2005, I even voted against my own self interest and supported the ban on same-sex marriage in the State of Texas. I stood in that voting booth for a long time thinking on my decision. I was voting against my personal life, but wanted to keep up with my political life. So I voted for the ban. I’ve regretted that decision ever since. It is the only vote that I truly regret, and am deeply sorry for. My one vote wouldn’t have made a remarkable difference in the state, but I regret it nonetheless. Thankfully, there were those stronger than me who fought to overturn the ban in the courts.

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The Reality of Political Theater

POLITICAL theater and antics is nothing new. With the spread of social media, it is never far from your fingertips. Tonight, Democratic members of the US House of Representatives are participating in an old fashioned sit-in. They claim that the sit-in is in an effort to pressure the Speaker of the House (Republican Paul Ryan) into holding a vote on gun control legislation.

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This action isn’t necessarily unprecedented in the House, but it is extremely rare. But a good question that is lost here, is this necessary? Have the Dems taken action using parliamentary procedure? There are parliamentary ways for the minority to get a vote on a subject. But this? This is a way for them to grab the headlines. The Dems have been doing just that for more than 12 hours (at the time of this writing). The sit-in is led by venerable civil rights icon, Congressman John Lewis. The action on the floor of the House is tapping in to the sentiment following the deadliest mass shooting in modern US History at Pulse nightclub in Orlando. The massacre rekindled the debate over gun control measures in this country. All of this theatrics, appears to be for naught. As with most of the “work” Congress needs to do, this is likely going nowhere. This even as a CNN/ORC poll shows that nearly 90% of the public supports some tightening of regulations and measures on gun control.

It is a difficult battle to fight. One side paints this as a quintessential American right, and the other paints this as an outrageous interpretation of a centuries old document. To be honest, what are we all fighting about? Yes, the assertion that no matter what law you pass, what regulation you make, it is only the law abiding citizens that will be affected. Criminals will always find ways to circumvent those laws. That’s what makes them criminals. But does that mean we should do nothing? Leave it as the status quo?

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 Clearly the status quo isn’t working. We continue to send thoughts and prayers out to our fellow Americans and people around the world time and time again. But what is the answer? I won’t pretend that I have that answer. But what I will say, is that the start of that answer is civil discourse and compromise. We won’t ever be perfect. We won’t ever be right 100% of the time. That would be boring, and what would be the point? What I will say about the state of our Congress is that it is far from common sense and civil. If Congress worked and did things like they were supposed to, this sit-in would never happen. A group of members wouldn’t feel the need to stage a massive theatrical production to rival the new Broadway hit. That is what needs to change first, but sadly the American voter won’t let that happen.

The sit-in is not just an example of the failure of our governing bodies, but it is an example of the failure of the American voter. The fact that participation in American elections is consistently low is another factor. But voters in this country find words like compromise and bipartisanship to be dirty curse words these days. If a Republican member decided to try and work with a Democrat to get some common sense legislation done, they’d have a well funded primary challenger within weeks. That is the unfortunate thing and what we see on the Hill is a direct result of this. What party officials, some politicians, political activists and voters don’t seem to always understand is that there is a difference between campaigning and governing. So the gun control debate is a symptom of the larger problem. We seem to be losing the common sense voices in this process. There doesn’t seem to be a desire to find common ground. There seems to only be the desire to win and win bigger than the last time. Until we fix that, the status quo will continue to affect us all.

More tomorrow on Everyday BRAND.

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Reflecting on Orlando Shooting

This has honestly been a very difficult post to write, it has in all seriousness taken me days to figure out what I wanted to say. All because, nothing really seems quite adequate. Few events have ever hit as close to home as this one. Sunday, the nation and the world woke to the devastating and heartbreaking news of the deadliest mass shooting in modern American history. The attack took place at PULSE, a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida. PULSE was a gay nightclub in an ordinary American city and it was a regular Saturday night. That is until a coward entered the club and unleashed three hours of terror on the patrons turned victims of this senseless act of violence. 49 people lost their lives on this tragic night. 49 loved ones. 49 brothers and sisters. 49 boyfriends, girlfriends, partners, spouses. 49 individuals.

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It is extremely difficult to put into words what a tragedy like this means to me. I ran the gamut of emotions on Sunday. From shock, to sadness, grieving to anger. I saw interviews with the mothers and relatives of the victims, desperately searching for answers and hope. Praying that somehow, the person they loved was safe. Many didn’t find that, and my heart inevitably broke each and every time, for each and every one of them. I thought of my own mother, my own family, how this would affect them if it were for some reason me. I thought how I would feel if my own partner was in a similar situation. I connected so much with people I never knew, and I had never met. Yet somehow, I loved them and prayed for them and their families.

The sorrow turned to anguish and anger at the situation. The entire range of emotions continued for days as more information, and more stories came out of the harrowing ordeal. I thought of how senseless this act was and is. The story that touched me the most was of Brenda McCool who was at the club with her son. She shielded him with her body, and saved his life while sacrificing hers. It was absolutely, devastatingly heartbreaking for me. I couldn’t imagine what her son must be going through. But I was inspired by her act of love to save his life. But then so upset that she was put in that situation.

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This isn’t even a full recap of what I have wanted to say. The debate on gun control will rage on soon. But that is for another day. I wanted to at least get something down, because I haven’t really been able to talk about it much. I want to remember the victims of this tragedy. I want this event to mean something for this country. Far too long, people and politicians have framed the debate about LGBT people as being about pedophiles and molesters in restrooms and around children. Hopefully, as horrible as this is – this will make people see and understand that LGBT people are just that… PEOPLE. Their families are no different than any other. The amount of support has been amazing to see. I hope it lasts. Hopefully, everyone finally learns that Love is love. Love conquers hate.

More tomorrow…hopefully…on Everyday BRAND.

 

 

Memorial Day

memorial-day-picturesToday is Memorial Day in the United States. Memorial Day was established as a day of commemoration of those who have made the ultimate sacrifice in the defense of our nation. America’s ideals of freedom, justice, and equal rights have all been challenged in our history. Thousands of American men and women have given their lives in many places around the world to secure those ideals. They sacrificed their lives to ensure a lasting peace for America’s future generations.

Our nation has consistently stood as a beacon of liberty and freedom in the world. Despite our tests, the United States has remained resolved to stand steadfast against those who would attempt to destroy the ideals we cherish the most. Our nation has always been determined to forge and achieve an enduring, everlasting peace — a peace with liberty and with honor. This continued determination and resolve, has been the highest form of tribute that we can pay to those who have given their all in the service and defense of this great nation.

This Memorial Day, as we spend times with our families and loved ones, we should all pause to reflect and pay tribute to the brave members of our Armed Forces who made the ultimate sacrifice. For those that have known the loss of a loved one and felt that absence, today gives a very formal expression to what is mostly a personal experience. Their loss can be marked, yet it can never be measured. We will never be able to measure the full value of what has been gained by the sacrifice of these men and women. We can however live out this value every day in the comfort and peace afforded to us by the freedoms they have safeguarded.

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We will forever be indebted to those who have given their lives to the defense of this nation. Their sacrifice is one that none of us will ever be able to repay. Yet these men and women served for a cause greater than their own. They served for the cause of freedom. This cause is one that we should all rededicate ourselves to in their honor. To all those who we have lost in the wars of this mighty nation, there is little else we can say but ‘thank you.” Thank you for your ultimate sacrifice. Thank you for liberating the oppressed and saving the world from tyranny. On the behalf of a grateful nation, thank you.

More tomorrow on Everyday BRAND.